Every Steps: September 2008

I came across these quotes on a recent website:

“I’m saving myself for the one I love,” words used by a writer to capture the attitude of NBA basketball great A.C. Green, who committed himself to abstinence from premarital sex.

“Love can wait to give; it is lust that can’t wait to get.” —Josh McDowell

What do you think? Can true love wait? Is it selfish desire that cannot wait?

From old days until today,sex have been a hot topic...whether male or female,christian or non chirstian,teenagers or adults cant avoid this.Sex is no big deal for married couples but the Main problem today is sex before marriage among teenagers.Sex has indirectly become a normal stages for every couples.Who to blame???boys or girls??very hard to answer...One of the reasons of teens sex before marriage is because they are influence by the phonograhphy....For me last time,I would consider watching pornography as normal...I am totally addicted and keep asking these few questions,Whats wrong with phonography???The one sitting beside me in school is watching...The one standing infront me during assembly is watching also...Almost all guys is watching...It is normal....Why must i be excluded???Those are excuses that give myself to get addicted into phonography..... Some of you all might be laughing when you reading this but I believe it is also excuses for every single guy out there....PLESE STOP this stupid thinking,Phonography is THE FACTOR that will lead you to self-service,sexual imorrility,rape and etc....If u still think phonography is normal,simply imagine that if next time your own children got this phonography addiction,Would you still support him by watching together with whole family??Dr. Victor Cline says that sex and pornography can be a more difficult addiction to break than cocaine.

These are five stages of addiction found on net:

1)Early exposure. Most guys who get addicted to porn start early. They see the stuff when they are very young, and it gets its foot in the door.

2)Addiction. Later comes addiction. You keep coming back to porn. It becomes a regular part of your life. You're hooked. You can't quit.

3)Escalation. After a while, escalation begins. You start to look for more and more graphic porn. You start using porn that would have disgusted you when you started. Now it excites you.

4)Desensitization. Eventually, you start to become numb. Even the most graphic, degrading porn doesn't excite you anymore. You become desperate to feel the same thrill again but can't find it.

5)Acting out sexually. At this point, many men make a dangerous jump and start acting out sexually. They move from the paper and plastic images of porn to the real world.

What "acting out" phrase means here is that you are over control by the sexual immorality in your brain...By that time,you will consider it is normal and part of every boy-girl relationships...You think sex will bring a more steady relationship,in fact is WRONG...because the partner you choose might dissapointed you in future,that is why the rate of pregnancy,abortion,divorce is increasing...But there is one person will not dissapoint u which is god.Sex before marriage is wrong for so many reasons but the simplest and biggest reason is that God has said we should save it for the context of a lifelong commitment to our mate. (Hebrews 13:4 "Marriage should be honoured, and the marriage bed kept pure")..... SO Think Properly!!Control!!and save your first time for someone u really love...However when you really love someone doesnt mean u have to do it..Cause I believe true love will waits with the guidance of god.....Amen??

Bible Verse: Use your whole body as a tool to do what is right for the glory of God (Romans 6:13).

-Daniel Fong-